here’s a thing that you have to consider when you plan to marry a doctor – they’re a group of people who have up to uncountable-hour of shifts to complete and you can’t expect them to be there when you’re back at home from work..so if you so wish to have a dinner date to celebrate your anniversary or birthday and what not, please notify them at least 2 weeks in advance..and do repeat the plan to them like everyday..and yes, surprises might not work..sorry..
so one of my friend was married to a doctor..and being the last kid in the family, he grew up to be a very spoiled child..he got things done for him, he got what he wanted there and then and he didn’t have to wait to get his wishes fulfilled..but things changed since he got married and his wife happened to be a doctor..
his wife has just graduated from med school and imagine the number of hours she has to spend in the hospital as a freshie..of course she wouldn’t have enough time to spend with his husband and let alone doing the house chores! and sadly to say, my friend is a lecturer in one of the new universities and he’s a fix office hour and he usually gets back to home before 6pm..
so what happens now is, the husband has been complaining to his mother that his wife has been so busy with her works that she neglects her responsibility to the husband and her family..the husband is complaining on things like having to do the laundry, cleaning up the house, cooking sometimes, paying the bills etc etc..
so that was the situation..but looking at the situation from my point of view, i think the husband seriously has no reason to complain..he knew he’s marrying a doctor, a freshly graduated doctor in fact..so he should be ready with the fact that he has to bear with the consequences of having a doctor as a wife, even from day one..and the consequences include all the things that he has to do..
i mean, let’s reverse the situation..the wife is the lecturer and the husband is the doctor..the husband will have a very fluid but tight schedule and the wife will have that fixed office hour..and of course the wife will do all of the house chores and no, the wife will not complain that she has to do the chores..she’ll prepare the meal, clean up the house, do the laundry, pay all the bills, make the house budget etc etc..may be she’ll complain about her husband’s absence but she’ll not complain about the duties..
so why can’t the husband tolerate if the wife is super busy..?marriage is an institution where you have to share a lot of things and tolerate a lot of things..if the wife can’t do all the chores, and the husband have all the time and energy for that, it is so not wrong if the husband do the chores for the family..i mean, who assign the job scope of “house duties” to wives only..?men are biologically stronger and capable so why not help ease the wives’ burden by helping around..?seriously, when i see the wife do the chores when she has the time, she will do all the works perfectly..she would’ve done all of the works if she could..
it’s such a waste if they end their marriage with a divorce because of things like these..i mean, go get a maid because both of you are financially stable..and the husband could seriously use times like these to learn to be more responsible towards his wife..she needs his support on her works because hospital itself is a very stressful environment and she’s too tired because she has to take care of other people so she could really use some concerns from her husband..trust me, it’s only for the first few years..when she gets efficient in her works, things within the marriage will improve..it’s just a matter of time..
come on people..people like you guys scare people like me to get married.. 😦