of the generation gap..

how do i start..but this is gonna be long..

let’s just say most of my friends on facebook are teachers as some twist and turn of fate make me have friends who are teachers in nature..most of them are the new generation of teachers – teaching for three years or less..and that makes them teach the generation who are native to technology..

and let’s just say, our social networking systems that have been occupying most of our times now are also accessible to the generation of students they are teaching..and to some teachers, they allow their students to befriend them on facebook..some teachers would create a second account just so they can keep their personal life stories under their nose and the students at bay from those information..

anyway, i guess it’s a huge pain to some of my friends now..that they are seeing the status updates of their students and what they’re seeing are very much puppy-love-related..and most of them have been expressing annoyances and dislikes and some even put up a status to comment on the students’ “wrong” activities..

let’s look at it this way teachers..they are the generations who have more exposures to media compared to what we used to have..be it internet, satellite television, social networking sites, books, magazines and the list can be never ending..they receive more western influences as they grow up compared to our times..they grow up in an environment where financial state of the country is very much improved..my conclusion to this, at their age, they know more than what we used to know..they are more financially-abled..they develop more quickly than us be it physically, psychologically & biologically..they have more needs & desires compared to us at their age..

they have crush(es), they think they are in love, they’re busy building their identities and mostly concern on how their friends perceive them..don’t lie and say you never once had a HUGE crush back in school..i had a crush even when i was in primary school..i even remembered a boy who kissed me back in kindy..i’m not making a generalization from my one and very remote example here, it’s just you’re not admitting you had a crush and experienced puppy love..

before we had the luxury of bringing cellphones to school, we received/gave love letters did we not..?we saw the seniors dated at the school canteen or at some very hidden spots in the library did we not..?so yes, this is not new, not something that we don’t know and not something we are not aware of..

the difference is now they have effective means of expressing their thoughts..if we have facebook back then, and we have smart phones that we could bring to school, do you think we’d refrain ourselves from doing what they are doing..?really..?

and teachers, if you haven’t noticed yet, they’re the generations who are more outspoken and have a very positive self esteem..they’re never afraid in voicing what they want..of course when it comes to in-class activities some would choose to be passive students but look at them after school..they’re in their most genuine beings – outspoken and confident in their own ways at least within their comfortable group of friends..

so yes, given facebook, smartphones, other genius gadgets and the generation attributes, you read what’s on your timeline..their photos that you don’t want to see too..yes, they’re all made public on their facebook..

isn’t he cool as..?haha..

i’ve a student on twitter who’d tweet something like “i’m jealous when you’re with him” or “home is not homey when you’re not on my sight” or “don’t you know that i love you more than anyone else..?” and he mentions that girl specifically since she’s also on twitter..

oh, i had a student who asked me if i’ve already had a boyfriend and further said he’d want to be my boyfriend if he’s my age..he said it with confidence like he’s already a person of my age when he’s just 11..and another student of mine would purposely bring his chair next to me each time i conducted a one-to-one tutoring period..i’d be tutoring one student for 10 minutes and let say i tutored 8 students throughout that period, he’d stick with me even after the 8th student finished their tutoring with me..and he’d text me good night every night without fail..he’d come and help me with my things each time before class and walked me out the classroom each time i ended the class..and he’s 14..courageous were they not..?

i’m not saying what they do are alright and i’m not saying what you complain on facebook are wrong..let’s just say, try to understand their situations and needs, then do something that could be effective both in helping them with their studies as well as shaping them to be a mature and responsible person..

expressing your “meluat aku tengok budak budak zaman sekarang..seluar dalam pun mak belikan, ada hati nak bercinta time sekolah” won’t change anything..educate them to be more responsible with what they say, with that they do, with what they express..justify things with them so they know that it’s not something forbidden for them, it’s just not their time yet..justifying could be tricky because you’d appear as nagging to them and heck no, you yourself as a student hates it when teachers nag to you..be the adult, be the educator..do something that would make them understand their priorities..make activities so they can see the wider picture of the world that they have a long journey to make before committing their hearts..

they’re capable of doing A LOT of things we can’t even think of when we are at their age..but with that too, they’re capable of understanding things more easily as they mature much earlier these days..they’d understand if you make them understand..

even if you’re not teachers, start thinking to do something about this because in the near future, your kids would be one of those who would write such things on facebook..and other adults would criticize what they see..

yes we were at that age, we knew how it felt, we knew too it won’t work..but being 15 then is not the same as being 15 NOW..and they need to experience what we’ve experienced to grow up and make mistakes and be wise..it’s a cycle, you can’t stop it but you can contribute to a healthy change..

of the people i met..

when i was flying to leeds just a couple of months back, i met a sweedish guy..he basically worked in malaysia but every 2 or 3 months, he had to fly back to sweeden to work at the head quarters office for two weeks..he’s in the computer field, some genius and well paid job i might say judging from the knowledge he had and his appearance, of course..we had a long good chat in the flight because he couldn’t sleep as well and we even had coffee together as we arrived in amsterdam since we both had a more than 4-hour transit before the next flight..

so obviously we couldn’t talk about anything computer related because hell no, i have no idea what’s going on inside the computer’s brain if i could call it that..it’s like a genius machine that tells google everything we wanted to know even on things as simple as “where is my house?”..

and since he’s a well read person and he did some political studies back in the days, i told him i’m a linguistics major and so we talked about how noam chomsky (the superhuman in linguistics) who started off as a genius linguist ended up as a super genius politician..so we talked about how a linguist could be a good politician..so basically, rikards suggested that if you’re a linguist, you could be a good politician because you understand the significant semantic and pragmatic relations to every word..

and just now, i met a pakistani guy who randomly asked me where the post office is..while i was walking! he came from behind me and greeted me randomly..how awkward was that..i was on my way down to the supermarket and it so happened that the post office was nearby the supermarket so i showed him where the post office was..

and as we walked down to the town from school, we got to know each other..so he’s a phd student doing international politics..and as he knew i’m a linguistics major, he went all excited telling me about how great of a politician NOAM CHOMSKY had became and that he was asking if there’s anything particular about a linguist that could make them a very good politician..he’s suspecting the same thing – linguists knew exactly the right word to say and were very good in influencing people..

gosh!

first, noam chomsky as a linguist believed that in acquiring any language, a child constructed sentences based on the pre-wired system they had in their brain that for a sentence to be a sentence, it needed a subject, verb and an object..and depending on the specific languages, the order of subject, verb and object could vary..he did NOT believe that we constructed languages based on meaning that we give to the particular words..hence, semantic or pragmatic were NOT his cup of tea..but his works were very much grammarly-focused..

second, we learned NOTHING about how to make sentences more powerful or easily understood or highly influential..the most that we do was building sentence trees! like this:

yea, how can that teaches us how to influence people..the most that we choose is the HEAD of the sentence..

third, most linguists were at universities doing their endless researches..and instead of successfully conveying a message in a direct, and easily intelligible way, linguists tended to twist their sentences and made it harder to understand..like i said previously, instead of saying walk straight in 2km and you’ll find the police station on your right, linguists would say alright you can walk that way for 2km and along that way, there’ll be a beautiful fountain on your left, a beggar in 200m, and a may be you can switch route! see what i meant..?

fourth, have they even read any ONE of chomsky’s work..?just one..please, try read and tell me what you think about it..

buy anyway, i might have been belittling the linguists a bit too much here but no i love linguistics and linguists 🙂 i’m delighted that people were aware that hello, linguists do exist in the society and we did a lot of things for the society and no, we’re not stuck as teachers as some might stereotype it..and yes, i thanked chomsky for his findings and discoveries and theories..but a good politician..?well it’s not something generalizable people..

and true too, there’s power in words..we all speak, even the deaf speaks sign language..it totally depends on how you bring about the powers from within those words..

and he said..

No no, u’ve given me wonders before, given me world so it’s nothing 🙂

i was whining to him as i’ve been bugging his peaceful life with my complicated worries and concerns..and he said those to me..ah~ i’m so having a sweet dream tonight..haha 😛 though he might sound like i’ve stopped giving him wonders and the world now, let’s not look at his sentence structure and just understand his sincere intention in his compliment..

p/s pardon the cheesy-ness readers..
p/s/s mr boyfriend, thank you 🙂

the world as they see it..

it’s not a crime for being super rich..but it amuses me that some rich people belief that by drinking too much tap water, it will make you lose your hair..and that when they find out you boil your water and NOT buying packs and packs of mineral water, they make super-surprise remarks like “really, you boiled your water and let it cools down..?!”

when you ask “so do you not use your kettle..?how do you make coffee then..” and they’d reply “oh, i bought that coffee maker especially designed by such and such”..

so we talk about the winter plan..it lead into something more personal like our love lives..they passionately convince you that long distance relationship will not work..they fly from sydney to jakarta over the weekend just to attend their partner’s graduation ceremony yet it still can’t seem to work..

oh, and they ask their chinese friend as that chinese friend walk to the kitchen..”give me something to drink..” that chinese in turn ask “you sure you want to drink..?come on, she’s a muslim, you’re a muslim, show some respect to her even if you do drink..” and so i find an excuse to excuse myself..

and we talk about faith and belief..you really don’t want to assume that being rich is the reason for them to go astray..but they admit it to you “hey i have to do all those..my friends all do them..you can’t be hanging at a bar and not drink do you..your family’s friend hosts a dinner and they serve wine, why should you refuse..?and anything officials that we have to attend, we’d be served with pork and alcohols..you just can’t avoid it..seriously you should try pork..”

world these days..

a reference to being calm..

I was reading a friend’s blog post on being calm – that to me, could only exist in solitude..to me, again, being calm has always been the property rightfully belongs to an introvert..until a simple tweet appeared on my timeline:

“Be at peace with your own soul, then heaven and earth will be at peace with you.” (St. Jerome)

Suddenly it ticked somewhere at the back of my head that yea, being calm opened more doors to objectivity – it’s likely for you to be wiser in your decision making process..

That friend of mine presented that concept of calm in a very periodical & theoretical ways (by referring the definition put forward by a warrior) but it is presumably doable 🙂

Hence i concluded that “Be neither insufficiently spirited. Nor excessively over-spirited.” would make an extrovert even wiser..*mind the underlying assumption* 😛